In 2017, I gave my first TEDx Talk ‘Decoding the Stigma of Personal Development.
Here is my recount of the 6 month lead up from speaker application to showtime. But I’ve written this blog post because I think we can all learn from each other. It starts by developing our own ideas/ perspectives and having the courage to share them with each other. Good luck my friends : ) xx
It’s my birthday, 28 FEELIN’ GREAT!
Everyone says your 20s are the best years of your life… but it doesn’t come without some trivial and ‘formative’ life lessons.
Is the art of conversation and listening a dying art?
Humans are weird... which should make conversation interesting at the very least! I think conversations should leave you either happier or wiser. To make you laugh or think. It’s this continuous process of learning, about the other person, the world and maybe by talking to others, you also learn a little bit more about yourself.
Telling the truth is complicated. ‘White lies are suboptimal solutions to complex problems.’ eg. How do you tell someone they have bad B.O? Can you tell your gf she needs to wax her moustache.
Why do we feel like white lies 'save' us when 'honesty' isn't the best policy for sticky situations?! Here’s what I learned from Rule 8:
Having a Quarter-Life Crisis? Hate your job and don't know your 'purpose' in life?
So why is it important to have meaning?
“To have meaning in your life is better than to have what you want, because you may neither know what you want, nor what you truly need.” (pg 200)
The notion of ‘lack of meaningful progress’ is probably one of the symptoms of our quarter life crisis.
Stop Wasting Your Life on ‘Revenge,’ Sort Yourself Out Today.
We are half way there folks, this is Rule 6: Set Your House In Order Before You Criticise The World. Resentment, revenge, doing the uncomfortable right thing and don’t try to change the world yet.
Spanked as a child? Immigrant kid or not, if you were spanked and didn't end up in jail, maybe it was a good thing ha! 👍
Welcome to Jordan Peterson’s Rule 5: Don’t Let your children do anything that makes you dislike them. If you don’t want kids, STRAP UP BUD because it doesn’t sound like a walk in the park.
‘Compare Yourself to Yesterday. Not to Someone Else Today.’
Jordan Peterson uses Rule #4 to remind us that logically, we just can’t do this. Humans, are multi-dimensional. When we compare, we focus on one dimension: beauty, status, money. But in reality, no one is like you and no one is like them.
Why do we outgrow friendships? Why do we have friends who are quick to criticise or downplay our achievements? Jordan Peterson’s Rule #3 Make Friends With People Who Want What’s Good For You, outlines the problem with having friends who drag you down.
Why do we need routines or discipline? What's wrong with casual sex?
Rule #2 ‘Treat Yourself Like Someone You Are Responsible for Helping.’ In this chapter of 12 Rules for Life an Antidote to Chaos, Jordan Peterson reminds us that we are worthy of being taken care of (by ourselves). I’ve broken the chapter into 3 sections: 1. Chaos and Order, 2. Consciousness and 3. Self-Respect and Care.