Samantha Clarke: The Athlete Fighting for Love, Awakening & Your Best Life.
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There is perfection in timing.
Reduce the ego, unlock life's potential.
Take the road less travelled. It's hard, but fuck it's worth it.
(Sammy Pie aka. girl who gets punched in the guts at Tiger Muay Thai!)
Jardin Cafe, Sydney.
This interview is so raw and full of millennial wisdom. Sammy is truly a gift. I hope her words inspire anyone who is confused, or going through a rough patch in their lives, to continue to push through. She's lived on the streets, contemplated giving up on life and has come full circle into a beautiful woman who embodies love. She's an athlete, actor, presenter and Founder of Slice of The Pie, an experience based company connecting ethical brands to influencers and their audiences.
PS. I've tried something new by including sound bites of the interview, enjoy! xx
What was your childhood like?
I was very curious and intense. I left home when I was 12 and lived on the streets. I think that’s where I got a lot of my resilience and ability to read people.
How did living on the streets impact you as a child?
I experienced a lot of pain, hatred and isolation. I was a bully, all this rage coming out of me because it was what I was receiving. All the while having this little spirit in me who wanted to do good. I felt so powerless.
Did you have any mentors?
I love that, reverse engineering your current situation...
Yes, it can be the biggest teacher. It’s also really defining. We see amazing inspirational people who encourage us and we think ‘oh maybe.’ Whereas we see something you don’t want and think ‘definitely not’ and it pushes you further and further away in the other direction. You think ‘I’m just not going anywhere near that.’ It’s definitely compelling.
INDEPENDENCE, femininity and DATING.
By the age of 19, you moved three times across Australia. Have you always been independent?
Always. But it’s not always worked in my favour. It’s only been in the last year, and I’m 30, that I’ve embraced my femininity and realised it’s not 'weak.'
It’s also prevented me from letting people close. I didn’t know I had this anxious attachment style. If I had a partner, I just didn’t want to let go. So there was this complete imbalance, but it’s now given me the opportunity to unbalance that.
The friction of self-development and dating:
What I’ve found with dating, is that the more evolved I’ve become as a human and female, the harder it is to attract someone because they need too need be evolved.
For no fault of their own, there’s a lot of underdeveloped people. It’s not exciting for everyone to do into ‘the inner depths of who you are, pull it all apart and reassess.’ But I really believe, I just haven't been in the right environment.
Why she's breaking up with Sydney:
Sydney, like New York has a very masculine energy, it’s very 'go-go-go achieve'. As opposed to a place like Hawaii, which embraces a more feminine energy of flow, nature and trust. So for me the environment (Sydney), just doesn’t serve me anymore. Sydney and I are breaking up. Because I need to find an environment, or geographical relationship, that supports me growing into a woman.
A Multi-faceted career
Multiple jobs. One goal.
I always felt like acting, personal training and presenting would one day come together. It looks to people that have a 9-5 that I'm doing many things, but I'm really just doing one thing. I'm following my happiness.
The Bachelor offer
It would’ve given me the platform to be a household name and get my message out.
But it just wasn’t pure. Something inside of me said ‘Babe you’ve got to keep climbing, because you don’t know what’s on the next platform. I would’ve had to confine who I was and my message to the world is ‘Don’t ever confine who you are.’
suicidal thoughts & Coming Full Circle
You seem to have come full circle, into the person who you're truly meant to be. What's that journey been like?
Exhausting honestly. I’ve spent years in isolation, loneliness and tears and not knowing why I have this desire to make an impact and not knowing why I’m not. It’s been a really tough journey.
Not many people would pick it because I don’t walk around like a traditional ‘victim.’ I have this vibrant natural energy and I love life. But I would go home and cry. It’s been an awfully taxing journey but now I am free and I see that it is all worth it.
Deciding to choose life over tapping out...
(I'm just going to let you hear this one, it's a tear jerker xx)
Finding strength & source
Where do you think your mental strength comes from?
It’s not mental, I don’t know, language is quite limited. It’s spiritual, heart, visceral, what I know is that it is not mental. I’m stepping into it more and more now as I am taking bigger risks and making these decisions.
I think to truly live the biggest life, you’ve got to be out in mind.
Your brain can only collect data that it has been given. For me, with the data I’ve been given, I should be rocking up and down in a hallway! So it’s not mental strength, it’s strength that’s beyond me.
How do you tap into this source?
Maybe because having been broken, I have realised that my thoughts don’t serve me. I think instead of tapping into it, its clearing everything else away so we can channel it. It allows the ego to disappear.
Advice for people going through a shit time:
Turning 30. The 'Fuck it' Moment.
What is Slice of the Pie?
Slice of the Pie aims to inspire every man, woman and child live the life of their dreams and give back in the process.
My 30th birthday was definitely an awakening. Everything I thought was going to happen, didn’t. I had no partner, family, no close friendship network in Sydney, I didn’t win an Oscar. I was terrified and it propelled me to make a decision, to start Slice of the Pie. It was almost like I was waiting for my 30th birthday, I think it was truly a gift.
Growth from service:
Now, my goal is to serve. I’ve lived a life of abundance, I’ve lived a life of nothing so many polarities. The beginning of growth is service. You can’t be of service until you know you’re enough. It starts with telling yourself, you’re enough.
TRUSTING LIFE & your Future Self
Why pursuing your passion is worth it:
You just have to trust your intuition, do what you love and money will come. If you do what you love, you will find a way to make money from it. It might take A LOT longer than you think. But it will be longer lasting.
What does your next five years look like?
I’ve given up on future planning because it’s never worked. I am so full of life that I’m stepping back. My life has become so full and so unique that I am naive to think that I can plan what’s next.
Don't settle for easy mediocre life:
Finding your own divinity
Sammy referred to this fable:
There is a Hindu legend about a time when all humans were gods, but they abused that divinity. They so abused it that Brahma, the chief god, decided to take it away from them and hide it where they would never find it again.
Where to hide it became the big question. The lesser gods were called into council to consider this question: “Where shall we hide humanity’s divinity?” The council said, “We will bury humanity’s divinity deep in the earth, but Brahma said, “No that will not do; one day they will dig down deep into the earth and will find it.”
Then they said, “We will sink their divinity into the deepest ocean.” Again Brahma replied, “No, not there, for they will learn to dive into the deepest waters, and search the ocean bed and find it.”
Then the lesser gods said, “We will take it to the top of the highest mountain and hide it there.” But again Brahma replied, “No, for eventually humans will climb every high mountain on earth; they will be sure some day to find it and take it up again.”
Then the lesser gods gave up and concluded, “We do not know where to hide it, for it seems there is no place on the earth or in the sea that humans will not eventually reach.” Then Brahma said, “Here is what we will do with humanity’s divinity. “We will hide it deep down in humans themselves; they will never think to look for it there.”
Ever since then, the legend concludes, humans have been going to and fro throughout the earth, climbing, digging, diving, exploring, and searching for something already within themselves. The divinity within humanity is still the best-kept secret of the ages.
What advice would you give to your 20 year old self?
There is perfection in timing. I think you learn what your meant to learn at the time when you can absorb it. And listen to your heart. I know the answers to everything I need to do, if I just shut the fuck up.
What is your definition of hacking life?
I think our duty on this earth is to fall so in love with who you are and your life, so that that life force flows onto others. That’s what I want to do. I don’t want to make people fall in love with me, I want them to fall in love with themselves.
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